Ten Commandments in Love
1) If someone is never available or always busy, then chances are they don't really want to see you. Someone who is interested in you makes the time, treats you like you're more than just an afterthought and includes you in their plans. They never make you feel as if you are a burden or an intrusion. Your feelings, happiness and well-being are always important to them.
2) If you call and leave a message or take the time to email someone, if they are interested they return your call or take the time to respond to your email. Silence may be interpreted in many ways, but in my book silence is neglect and relationships don't thrive on neglect. Plain and simple...relationships are a work in progress and take a lot of hard work on both people's parts!
3) Intimacy is a mutual sharing and nurturing of each other's inner self. It doesn't consist of one person always being in the spotlight or having problems. Both people have legitimate wants, needs and feelings. One-sided relationships may fulfill a needy person, but the other person who is doing all the giving gets drained dry quickly. "The right one" always knows what's going on in your life. They know when you're sad or facing a difficult situation. "The right one" is there to help you through those times, just like you've been there for them during their darkest hours.
4) If you pour your heart to someone in order to reassure that person of your feelings and the heart pouring isn't lovingly reciprocated, then chances are the person has no feelings for you. Stop being a door mat and letting your feelings be spent on frivolous things like loving someone who doesn't love you. Hanging in there only makes you feel demeaned and used. Your love is worth more than that, so find someone who can and will appreciate you and cherish your love.
5) If gift giving occasions like your birthday, Christmas, Valentine's day come and go without even a simple acknowledgment, then the object of your affection isn't deserving of the time and effort you have spent on being there in the difficult times or in the good times either. Why worry about finding "the perfect gift" if the person you give that gift to could care less that they even get a gift from you? Stop wasting your time and money. Go buy yourself a gift for being smart!
6) Don't be unhappy. Don't be bitter. It's not the other person's fault they don't love or want you. Sometimes people are just meant not to be together and their silence, disappearing acts and general evasiveness is actually them doing you a big favor in the long run. Sometimes people stay in relationships with the wrong person for a lifetime...don't be a statistic! Run... don't walk away!
7) Actions speak louder than words. If someone can't or won't back up their words with action then their words and promises are empty and meaningless. Some people are great at blowing smoke and weaving captivating dreams, but when it comes right down to it, those people aren't the right ones to be with. "The right one" will make dreams come true! When "the right one" asks "where have you been all my life?", another day never goes by without you in their life.
8) Read the signs and don't overlook red flags. Trust you intuition and your heart. If you spend more time wondering about everything and feeling sad than feeling loved and being happy then the person you love isn't "the right person" for you. " The right one" will move a mountain to make you feel secure. "The right one" will move a mountain to be with you. And "the right one" will move a mountain to make sure their words and actions tell you the same thing.
9) If you feel that you're chasing a figment of your own imagination, you probably are. Things always look better in the beginning and people tend to show their true colors over time. Don't hold this against the person. Just look at it as a learning experience. "The right one" will start out the race and finish it being the same person.
10) Be brave and willing to keep searching. Shutting the door and turning off the light only is going to hurt you in the long run. Open your heart and believe that "the right one" is out there and will find you because "the right one" is out there searching too. "The right one" understands pain and loneliness because it's something they've been through also. No, "the right one" isn't going to be perfect. They will have flaws and imperfections like you, but "the right one" will place you first and love you unconditionally and not just when it's convenient or easy for them to do. "The right one" will do whatever they have to do to right a wrong, to bring a smile and to say "I love you"!